BDSM and Fetishes
Hopefully by now you will be understanding BDSM And Fetishes and what it’s all about. Now we are in a position to some of the specific fetishes involved within the BDSM community.
We aren’t going to link them to their particular subsets of BDSM, because there will be some relationships within the below subsets which will incorporate some, or even minimal aspects of BDSM. Ultimately at the end of the day it is up to the individuals involved within the scene to determine which elements to incorporate.
There are a wide variety of fetishes and different sorts of sexual kinks out there
So many in fact, that it is often impossible to be able to name them all, let alone cater to them.
Adult Lifestyle Centres pride themselves on their ability to handle and cater for a wide variety of fetishes including BDSM, medical play, Cross Dressing, Stretching and pumping, body and penis/stretching modification. Surgical Steel play, Cupping, and many more. Indeed, Adult Lifestyle centres have one of the largest ranges of medical surgical steel and BDSM ranges in the Australian market. We invite you all to come and check out what the fuss is about.
Pet Play
Sees an individual ‘becoming’ a particular animal and absorbing the qualities normally associated with that animal. Most common forms of pet play see participants likening themselves to puppies, kittens and ponies. It is closely linked to a power exchange which sees one person in the relationship as a dominant through the term ‘trainer’ or ‘owner’ of the pet, and the pet being seen as a submissive participant of the activity. Not all of pet play should be deemed sexual in nature and there are a considerable amount of people who this type of play as a form of escapism from ‘human’ life.
It should be noted that pet play is different to furry play.
Though it is acknowledged that they are more closely linked than other types of fetishes. Pet play is a type of subset of BDSM in the way that in reinforces a sense of owner/owner relationship, pets can be dependent on their owner for a variety of things including sexual needs, food, and general interaction.
Level of dependency is dependent on the level of engagement that one has in regards to becoming a pet or being a pet owner. Being a pet may simply mean to occasionally dress up and perform like a pet, or it may extend to complete and utter control either within the bedroom or within the household. This relationship might be a 24/7 kind of thing, or it may only be engaged at certain times for certain periods, or anything in between.
A pet might wear what the owner wants them to wear, sleep when told, and follow the rules that the owner has set up. For some people engaging in pet play, or being in a state of ‘less than human’ reinforces the power dynamics between the individuals. The question then becomes, why pet play?
We explored the psychological aspects of BDSM related activities in the previous article
Pet play can be an incredibly fun way psychological and emotional release. Upon coming home an individual could ‘forget’ the restrictions that humanity has placed on them and simply perform their wishes in a way that they’d like to. Pet play can be considered a form of stress release from the pressures of daily life. For those interested in pet play, they need to choose an animal.
Any animal could theoretically be chosen and there are a variety of pets out there, but an individual should choose a pet based on the qualities/instincts of the animal that most closely identify with.
Pony Play
This sees at least one participant of the relationship dressing up to resemble a horse, as well as taking on and assuming the mannerisms of a horse. It is a form of animal play which will generally draw upon elements of BDSM.
Will often include BDSM paraphernalia in the form of restraints, Gag Bits, harnesses, and other forms of leather attire. Ponies are generally animals which have an exceptionally structured life. It is for people that literally like to be led around on a leash.
Pony play is unique in the way that there is generally an equal mix of Pony boys and Pony girls who engage and enjoy this form of pet play. Indeed, throughout the world there are various stables that you’ll find which specialise in human pony play as well as human pony training.
You will find basic pony play equipment at any Adult Lifestyle centre which includes riding crops, horse masks, Gag bits specifically geared towards horse play, and a variety of leather harnesses.
Puppy Play
Puppy play is traditionally geared towards males, though there are female puppies in this fetish which should not be ignored. It also draws its roots from BDSM with a particular emphasis on leather culture. Puppy play will generally see a single dominant role identified as a ‘handler’, ‘trainer’, ‘master’ or some other variant of the word and a submissive who identifies and assumes the role of a ‘puppy’ or a ‘dog’.
This is not always the case however, with puppy play being unique in that it doesn’t necessarily need a ‘human trainer’ as groups of ‘puppies’ can congregate under an ‘alpha’ canine, or play together as equals, or even engage in fighting play for dominance. As such, it is not uncommon for multiple puppies to play together with or without a ‘trainer’.
Puppy play will generally epitomise curiosity and instinctiveness
And as with other forms of pet play, people will assume this role as a way to escape humanity, whereby the ‘puppy’ role will become a simplified lifestyle where they react and act solely based on ‘puppy’ instinct. Think chasing balls, protecting their owner and other various attributes associated with dogs.
As mentioned, puppy play has a solid foundation in leather play which will take the form of collars, leashes, hoods, restraints, puppy mitts, harnesses and a variety of accessories. Adult Lifestyle Centres stock a range of puppy play paraphernalia for any beginner puppy play enthusiast. And all of our staff are in a position to provide advice and guidance when it comes to puppy play.
Kitten Play
Has many of the same elements as puppy play, just in a different persona. It is more geared towards females, but it is important to note the males that also engage in this form of play.
Kittens are generally considered to be more mischievous than their puppy counterparts and are more ‘difficult’ to train. Like puppy play, it also draws its roots from BDSM and leather play as well as incorporating latex wear as well. Adult lifestyle centres stock a range of basic kitten play accessories including masks, collars, leashes, cat claws and mitts.
Medical Play
Involves the use surgical steel items commonly associated with the medical field. This type of play will often see a doctor and a patient, with the patient being subjected to medical examination, ‘torture’ and experimentation. The intimacy of a doctor’s examination is one of the key elements of medical play which sees the dominant performing quasi-medical tests, procedures and examinations on a submissive, or patient.
Medical play often sees the submissive restrained and/or gagged, and naked. Though where humiliation is part of the scene they may be dressed in some form of costume.
Medical examinations.
May involve the insertion of steel medical objects in orifices, or the handling of genitals, breasts and other body parts. Objects are usually in the form of quasi-medical devices, though this is not always the case, as strap on play is a recurring theme within medical play.
Examination may end through sexual release in the form of penetrative sex, or masturbation, or it may end with an enema or more simply, the patient being released back into the world.
In extreme variants of medical fetish
Body modification, piercing or skin stapling may also be a part of this kind of play, as well as the use of urethral sounds and electro play.
Patient may be deemed as a willing participant which could evolve into a doctor patient roleplay fetish, or unwilling which can also be referred to as asylum play. Though it should be noted that there are many variants in between.
Medical play is universal in terms of male to female interaction (or same sex). With either sex performing the role of a doctor or nurse. If a male is the subject/patient, there can be urethral stimulation and play, the use of penis pumps and anal stretchers.
Conversely, if a female is the patient there will be sexual toys and medical devices geared towards that.
Medical play is not always deemed as a sexual form of play
As it is primarily concerning the examination and ultimately the stimulation of the body through various tools and devices. Indeed there are ‘bed and breakfasts’ around the world dedicated to this fetish with their own play rooms for asylum play. Medical play is often associated as dealing with the psychological need to be looked after, as it mimics the vulnerability that a patient would feel when they are sick or in pain.
Medical play might involve a kind and trusting doctor focused on pleasure or it may involve a doctor who takes delight in causing pain. Adult Lifestyle centres stock one of the largest surgical steel toy collections of any fetish retailer and we are proud to showcase just a few of our items here.
It should be noted that the items listed do not necessarily have to be attributed to medical play, and can be utilised in any form of scene where appropriate.
Wartenberg Wheel
The Wartenberg wheel is one of the favourites when it comes to medical play.
Developed by Robert Wartenberg in the 19th century these devices were originally used as neurological sensors in order to test sensitivity on the body and nerve reactions. It is considered to be a sensation play toy when it comes to BDSM. Has the greatest effect when combined with other toys that specialise in sensation play such as a feather ticklers, violet wand or other electro device, as well as temperature play through ice cubes.
Number of wheels on a Wartenberg wheel will vary from a single wheel up to seven wheels. A single wheel variants are some of the most manoeuvrable. But they do not apply pressure as evenly as some of the larger variants. Care should be taken to note skin integrity of the individual so as not to cause harm, unless that is the intention of course.
Cupping
An ancient form of therapy that has been associated with Chinese and Arabic culture. It has been drawn into the spotlight recently through popular culture with celebrities such as Justin Bieber, Jennifer Aniston, Jessica Simpson and Victoria Beckham all using the ancient technique. Traditionally it has been used as a relaxant and alternative to acupuncture which involves a cleansing of the body, but more recently has evolved into a sexual fetish. Adult Lifestyle Centres now have a selection of cupping kits in stock.
Speculums
Used to explore specific orifices such as the vagina and the anal region.
Vaginal and anal speculums will have different shapes so it is important that you get the one which suits your needs as not all speculums are the same. Speculums stretch the muscles in the area and are generally used as exploratory devices or as muscle stretchers. Rarely used by themselves and usually accompany other toys, or are used as a pre cursor to other toys.
Speculums can be used before inserting other toys or liquids. Or they can simply be used aesthetically to provide ‘discomfort’ to an individual whilst the doctor explores and plays with other parts of the body. Adult lifestyle centres will stock a range of speculums specifically geared for anal or vaginal play as well as a selection of disposable speculums as well.
Medical Mouth Gag
A medical mouth gag is used to keep the mouth open at all times. As with a speculum, the gag is not used by itself, but is best suited to be used in conjunction with other toys. A mouth gag can be used in fluid play and water sports as well as breathing control.
It also creates an aesthetic atmosphere by providing discomfort to the wearer. Mouth gags come in several variations and include a metal o-ring with leather straps that reach around the head, or they may be a solid surgical steel device which are used to lock the mouth into place at a desired pressure/length.
Electro Play
More often than not, misunderstood. The reason for this is simple – most people’s experiences with electricity involve household items, sockets, or electrical wiring and this is a vastly different type of electrical ‘stimulation’ that is used by electro stims. Whereas household items and the misuse of electricity can potentially kill you, a current using an appropriate sexual device can result in the stimulation of nerve endings across the body as well as involuntary muscle stimulation.
As such, Electro play is a type of play which sees electricity applied to different areas of the body which can be used in a sexual, or non-sexual way.
There Are Two Types Of Electro Stimulation.
1. Pulse Based Stimulation
A pulse based stimulation device is what most people will think of when they are asked about electro stimulation. Pulse based stimulation involves a device specifically designed to provide stimulation to the human body with the most common examples being listed as TENS or EMS units.
These devices emit a wave form similar to a pulse that is designed to stimulate muscles and nerves. You might have seen one used for deep muscle massaging, as some of these types of devices can be quite intense. The general consensus is that this type of electro stimulation is the safest.
2. Electrostatic stimulation
Think the violet wand – this type of electrical stimulation involves high voltage devices which will result in an arc between the body and the device. Little sparks like lightning.
Some people question the safety of these devices as they will work in much the same way as lightning does; through the ionization of the air between the two forces. The ionization results in high temperatures, and when set high, can result in small red marks across the skin.
Safety tips for Electro Play
Electro play should not be attempted with dry skin as dry skin has a high resistance to electricity. Continuing to use an electrical device on dry skin will result in the ‘pulses’ or ‘static’ being both sharp and painful.
It is highly recommended that you apply an electrode gel lubrication to the area of stimulation to avoid skin burn. In a pinch, a small amount of water based lubricant with a sprinkle of baking soda will also work quite well. The better the contact, the more pleasure that you’re going to receive from the stimulation as opposed to pain.
Never cross the wires over the heart. Ever.
The general rule of thumb is that if it is below the waist then you’re going to be in for a good time. If you’re using it higher up, ensure that the unit that you’re using has bipolar outputs, or fully isolated outputs. Failure to ensure this may result in an inadvertent current being given to your heart which may not end well.
Common mistakes when using electro stimulation devices
- Not ensuring that the device is turned off when relocating a clip or adhesive pad and what will happen is that there is potential for the current to be transferred up the side of the body, against the heart and down back into the arm/hand.
- Always ensure that your device is turned off when relocating clips. For most people, this won’t be a problem, but if you’re dealing with some intense currents, then you’re going to want to ensure that there’s safety first.
- Usually this is only a problem for people misusing the toy, or turning it on beyond ones capabilities.
Alternatively, electro play can be used in CBT
Either as torture, or to improve blood flow for stronger erections. Electro play is incredibly versatile, and a lot of fun. Due to its popularity, Adult Lifestyle Centres stock a large range of electro play toys that will suit all budgets. What makes electro play so fun and versatile is that it can be used in many different ways. Including as a relaxant to target and stimulate tired muscles, or as a way to inflict pain, or anything in between.
Some electro units will be used to stimulate the skin, whereas others through adjusting the levels can create deep, muscular throbbing sensations.
It is important to let the staff know which type of play you are specifically after
As this will determine which set is recommended to you. Some of the electro play sets such as the Electro Stim, will simply use a single controller with a variety of different attachments which can be used at any time, whilst other electro toys will have a single function without varying attachments.
You might have noticed that medical play toys are generally not used by themselves, they might be used in conjunction with other toys, visual/aural stimulus in the form of heterosexual or gay porn, or even the manipulation of the senses. The idea behind medical play is that it provides a specific focus on pleasuring/providing discomfort to the body for varying purposes.
Medical play will involve a lot of sensation play, and is not always deemed to be of an explicit sexual nature. Medical play can also be used as a form of relaxant, which will see the ‘patient’ restrained whilst the body undergoes vastly differing sensations, or it can also be used to inflict pain and torture.
Cross Dressing
An insanely popular fetish that has a dedicated almost cult-like, following all over the world.
Cross dressing is often a misunderstood fetish.
Put simply, cross dressing simply refers to wearing clothes of the opposite sex in society. Cross dressing is generally associated with such themes as disguising, comfort and self-discovery. It is in no way an indication of any form of sexuality. With a lot of heterosexual identifying males in committed relationships with a female, engaging in this particular fetish.
Indeed a lot of heterosexual men enjoy dressing up in their wife’s lingerie, or purchasing lingerie for the both of them at the same time. Cross dressing is an extremely old fetish having been practiced throughout most of the recorded history of society, with links to Ancient Greece, Hindu and Norse Mythology.
Cross dressing is often confused with transvestism
With the difference being that transvestism is considered to be a more serious variant of the practice, with the individual behaving as the opposite sex both in the home, and outside of home for extended periods of time.
This distinction was made during the 1970’s to differentiate individuals who simply cross dressed for fun and erotic purposes in the privacy of their own home, to those that engaged with it as a form of lifestyle choice.
Cross dressing may also include forced feminisation which may occur in DS and SM relationships whereby the male partner is humiliated through the wearing of feminine clothes by his dominant. Wherever you fit in the broad spectrum that is cross dressing, it should be noted that all Adult Lifestyle Centres have private change rooms whereby a person of any sex may try on clothing (subject to standard hygiene rules) without fear of judgement, or ridicule.
CBT – Cock And Ball Torture
There’s a particular science in Cock and Ball torture which is yet another fetish which the Adult Lifestyle Centres specialise in.
Whilst the general definition of cock and ball torture involves the application of constriction and/or pain the male genitals it should be noted that this is not always the case. CBT can involve such activities such as wax play, spanking, urethral play, tickle torture and even electro stimulation; some of these activities have the capacity to inflict serious amounts of pain – whereas others may be simply be torturous, unkind or cruel.
CBT is closely related to SM with the recipient of the CBT may result in emotional, erotic, or even sexually pleasure through the humiliation or pain.
Adult toys for men used in CBT carries several health risks and it is essential that you not only use quality toys. But also seek guidance and advice and have knowledge in what you are doing before embarking in this type of play. People engage in this form of play for a variety of reasons.
Most common reason relates to SM practices which sees a submissive deriving pleasure from the pain being given to them, as well as being able to see the sadistic delight of pleasure from their Dom. The idea that the balls are one of the most sensitive parts of the body is just another reason to invite stimulation to them!
Ball Stretcher
Exactly what it sounds – a sex toy which is used to lengthen the scrotum away from the body through the use of pulleys/weights.
This can be done for two reasons, the infliction of pain, or because the individual wants to lengthen their scrotum. Low hanging balls throughout history have often been associated with masculinity and virility, and many men want to have low hanging balls.
Ball stretchers can also be used to increase the intensity of the male orgasm
Before ejaculation the testicles will attempt to draw themselves up closer to the body, the prevention of this means that the muscles have to ‘work harder’ in order to expel ejaculate resulting in a far more intense orgasm. Ball stretching can also be used as a torturous device used to inflict pain on an individual.
Ball stretching toys can be made of leather
Which are the most common, or they could also be made from a collection of steel rings that are attached with screws or clips. From here they may be traction devices or devices used to continually apply a specific amount of pressure through the use of spring, or weights can be attached to the device to provide the traction.
Careful consideration needs to be given with this activity as prolonged loss of blood circulation can occur if the device used is to tight, resulting in permanent damage to the testicles. Ensure to alleviate the pressure every half hour to ensure there is no permanent damage.
Ball Crushing
A ball crusher is a device used to provide an intense squeezing sensation to the testicles by slow turning a screw or appropriate part. They can be clear plastic sheets so that the crushing can be seen, or they can be made of metal with either screws applying the pressure, or being compressed between two solid pieces of metal.
Alternatively ball crushing can be done through boots or heels. Though this is often deemed as dangerous due to the inability to measure the amount of pressure being applied. Regardless of the one that you’re after, you’ll find both at Adult Lifestyle Centres.
Humbler
A humbler is a restraint which compels the wearer into a certain position (predominantly kneeling). Humbler is usually made of wood, but can be made of a variety of materials and generally sits behind the males buttocks, pulling the testicles through his legs.
This means that at all times the wearer must keep his legs folded forward. Any attempt to change position will result in the device forcefully pulling on the scrotum resulting in significant discomfort.
Urethral Sounding
Often a misunderstood pleasure. Let’s explore this topic by identifying straight off the bat why people might be interested in it. The tissues in the urethral canal are made of the same material as a female labia minora. And as such the inside of the urethra is filled with incredibly sensitive nerve endings all the way down the shaft.
]You might have felt it before, though not noticed it as you could have, the pleasure of urinating when you’ve been itching to go for a while. The ‘orgasm pee’ sees the sudden relaxation of muscles all around the genitals and is often considered to be quite pleasurable. In particular the flow against the inside of the urethra.
You might have become accustomed to shutting off this sensation. But next time you urinate, try and focus on the pleasures and sensations that you might have previously ignored.
This is just one of the reasons, why many men (and women) will use urethral sounds.
Other reasons include the taboo nature of urethral sounding. Or putting something down the urethra which results in the person psychologically climaxing as the body handles something that it wouldn’t normally handle.
Commonly and colloquially referred to as cock stuffing, a practice which is popular all over the world including United States, Australia Pacific Region, and Netherlands and the European region.
There is a certain dangerous element and taboo nature of having something inserted into your urethra, especially when most males will prefer putting it IN something else.
Great care should be taken with urethral sounding.
Sounding involves a careful before and after procedure.
- Firstly, drink fluids. A lot of people will recommend a concoction of cranberry juice as it contains a properties which have been attributed to the prevention of UTI’s and despite research to the contrary, many people will still use it as part of their routine. Really, there’s no right or wrong way to go about this so long as you’re drinking fluids and sticking to a routine.
- Secondly, ensure that your toys are clean and sterile before and after each use. Boiling them for thirty minutes will work wonders, and some people will use a rubbing alcohol (and wiping it off with a clean fabric) just before use. It is imperative that the sound go in clean to avoid irritating the urethra or causing any UTI’s. Using a Surgical Lubricant will also help avoiding any irritations as surgical lube is completely body safe.
- Thirdly, after use, ensure that the toys are sterilised and that you urinate. Urinating will remove any particles that have been inadvertently left there as a result pf the sound and it is imperative that they be removed to avoid infection. Following these three simple and easy to remember tips will ensure that your sounding experience will not only go smoothly, but that you won’t suffer from any ill side effects as a result of sounding.
BDSM And Fetishes
If you have any further questions – all staff at Adult Lifestyle Centres have been specifically trained in (cock)sounding and cock plugging (there is a difference) for both males and females. Because our centres carry one of the largest collections of urethral sounding and plug devices around. It is becoming an increasingly popular sexual activity.
What’s great is that Adult Lifestyle Centres stock both surgical steel and silicone sounds. As well as electro stimulation sounding kits. If sounding is what you’re into, whether you’re a beginner or an advanced user, our stores will have them in stock with sizes ranging from 4mm to 18mm.
Whilst both a sound and a plug can be inserted into the urethra.
A urethral sound is far longer than a plug and it is specifically designed to be moved and slowly inserted in and out to stimulate the edges of the urethra. A plug, will generally consist of ridges to hold it in place and is designed to be left in the shaft during sexual activity.
Plugs are not commonly used with females due to the location of the urethra, but all urethral sounds will work with both women and men so long as there is enough length.
As you can see when it comes to fetishes – there are a lot.
Staff at Adult Lifestyle Centres are trained in fetishes, and specific types of fetishes, and they will always act with professionalism and without judgement. You can rest assured that if you’re looking for items to satisfy your particular fetish, even if on the off chance that we don’t have it stock, your request will treated with the utmost of customer service.
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Bachelor of Accounting Program Telkom University January 24, 2021 at 4:28 am
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